It doesn’t matter if one is 18 or 48, not everyone emotionally matures at the same rate. If you want to avoid dating a man-child, here are 12 sayings to be on the lookout for.
- “I don’t feel like it!” There are many tasks and events we don’t want to do or go to. However, we find our inner strength and face it head on because we know its something we need to accomplish. When you hear this comment, it signals someone is shirking their responsibilities.
- “Do we have to?” Notice if this is said with or without a kidding smile. If there is no smile, then you are with a narcissistic child. They need to learn there is more to life than just their wishes.
- “Why can’t you do it?” This is another sign this person doesn’t care about your needs. If they have a sense of your schedule or plans, then this saying means they don’t care.
- “Shut up!” This can mean either the personal is over stimulated or they are simply rude. This is an overly simplified version of trying to get a person to slow down, but typically comes across incredibly disrespectful.
- “I hate you!” This is surefire way to hurt someone’s feelings. Make sure you pick on any signs that they are teasing you. If not, then you should consider leaving the relationship if they find you so unappealing.
- “No one will treat you as good as I do.” This is way to control you since they don’t want you to think about how anyone else could treat you like you deserve to be. They want you to be dependent on them for all your emotional and physical needs. Nothing could be further from the actual truth!
- “It’s ours!” When a person tries to control how you spend resources without factoring in your input, this is glaring red flag. This is especially true with any money you specifically earn on your own.
- I invited them to stay with us for a while.” Unless they are referring to their particular space separately, you need to be consulted on all visits. Saying something like this when you are cohabiting shows they aren’t emotionally ready to be in a healthy relationship. Anytime you cohabitate, all decisions from decorations, parties, house guests, meals, to pets, must be made together with both parties getting equal input.
- “You’re so fricking sexy.” Although it seems like a compliment, your looks shouldn’t be the only thing they focus on in your relationship. With men especially, looks are the focal point in their youth. But as people age, we begin to value a variety of qualities as attractive. Being viewed as sexy is wonderful, as long as they are also commenting on your wit, recent successes, or stunning win at the last game night. If they only value your looks, its time to move on to someone who love the entirety of you.
- “I don’t get why you find that ” If you value something, your partner should be curious to learn more. This includes when you have a compliant that needs to get addressed, like leaving dirty dishes in the sink for a week or them falling to contribute to the bills. You deserve to be with someone who knows your opinion matters, and values your input.
- “Whatever!” Is there a bigger brush off than whatever? This shows they aren’t willing to listen, let alone value your input.
- “I’m keeping theses nudes!” It’s common today to sext people, but you should always consider the lasting impact and avoid being forced into any situation that causes you uncomfortability. Anyone threatening to spread these pictures around is invading your privacy. Similarly, someone who views your nudes as their “property” is too juvenile to consider the implications on you. Always think and then think again, before you sext anyone!