When you are in a new relationship, you will want to spend all the time with them that you can. You will feel that you are in a place that makes you feel intoxicated and that you are your own little team. But at some point, things will calm down and get back into normal and you will have your own routines and things that you do in your life. This will mean that you will naturally spend less time together.
Even though everyone needs to have alone time, sometimes a partner will need more alone time than you do, and this does not mean that something is wrong.
Remember that wanting to have time alone is normal and there is nothing wrong with this. In a relationship, alone time is healing and can help you to recenter and recharge in your mind and body. This allows them to connect with who they are and to embrace the relationship better. Alone time can help the relationship grow but if you have too much alone time, this can also mean your partner is not happy with you.
How can you tell if your alone time is natural or if your partner is unhappy?
Balance Alone and Couple Time
Everyone needs some alone time but there has to be a balance of alone time and togetherness. If your partner always wants to be alone, this is a sign that he might not be happy. This can be a threat to your relationship.
If you find that you spend a lot of time with your partner and he still get his alone time, this is healthy for your relationship and things are going well.
There should not be anything said about your partner needing alone time. This can become a problem if you are not talking about things and if you are expressing yourself aggressively but if they just need some time alone, respect their needs.
As long as your partner is making you a priority and you do not feel neglected by them, then stop thinking about it. Does your partner want to go out with his buddies after work and spend the weekends with you? This is a normal part of any relationship and this is a sign that he is into you.
If you feel that you are being ignored, this can be a problem and chances are that he is not making you a priority.
Feel the Same
If your partner wants to have alone time and you feel weird when they come home, this can be a bad sign but if you feel the same and things feel normal then it is healthy. Trust how your intuition makes you feel when they come back.
One good sign that your partner likes you is that they are doing something that makes them happier when they get back home to you. See how their personality is and if they are happy and excited when they come home. Doing something healthy and fulfilling for them can make your relationship stronger.
Remember that your partner should be more about quality than quantity. Some people think that they have to spend all of their hours in their day with their partner in order to be happy, but this isn’t true.
Spend time and make it important each time you are with them. If you feel that they give you all their time and attention when they are with you, do not count the hours but count the quality of your time spent together.
Happy Alone or Together
Your partner will probably love his alone time and it is important that he feel happy if he is alone or with you. If your partner is only happy when he has alone time, this is a bad sign, and your relationship might be in trouble.
But, if your partner likes to take time being alone but then loves to spend time with you, your partner can have joy being with you and being alone.
Needing to have alone time is a natural thing and if you are someone that doesn’t need a lot of alone time, it can take time for you to adjust to someone that does. As long as you and your partner are happy in your relationship, you probably are in a healthy relationship and have nothing to worry about.