There are times when we look back on our relationships, even our current ones and wonder how we ended up in the place we are. It may seem as if you are both everywhere and nowhere at the same time. Whether its memories of being yelled at over the phone over an innocent mistake or the passion that secrecy creates, it seems wrong and right. There may even be times when you wonder if the years spent with someone have been a total waste when you missed out on the fun that could have been had.
The same person can be considered an experience because he or she has left a mark on your life and you may even feel lucky for having met them. Unfortunately, those days seem to only be occasionally. You may even spend time praying or talking to some higher being about the relationship. The higher being probably growing weary of hearing about the same issues again and again.
Regardless of how you met someone, regardless of what life could have been, you have played out every scenario and it seems like this relationship should end, just to save what is left of your heart. Weirdly though, all the good and bad make up memories. These memories look like a mess from a distance, but are beautiful when closely inspected. There is an odd method to the madness.
Perhaps you feel your whole love story was meant to be destructive, that the quiet calm love was never meant to be in your life. This is because a destructive love forces you to change and grow. Pain is an excellent, albeit harsh teacher.
Even though the memories and the lessons will always hurt, you can learn great things from them. The destruction of a relationship can be a salvation for your life. Tough relationships, full of love and hate, force us to save ourselves. As we rebuild who we are, forever changed, we start to heal. We may continue to talk to God for continued healing for a long time to come. For those we left behind, we can also wish healing for them that comes from deep within, when they are ready.
Some relationships are filled with love, hate, passion, and fighting. These relationships are intense and when we are finally broken, they are revealed as painful and negative. Still, when in them, we learn a great deal that we can build on in the future.