Relationships are all about choice — sometimes we choose wrong.
As men, we can appreciate a great woman — someone who is smart, well-balanced, and provides us with comfort and emotional support. Sometimes, however, we find ourselves with clingy, controlling, jealous, emotionally unbalanced women. Instead of comfort, they are sources of stress and conflict.
When we realize that we’re in such a relationship, it’s time to break it off and choose again. The alternative is a life of dissatisfaction, and never finding a mate with whom you’re truly compatible.
Sometimes breaking-up can be incredibly difficult. This is especially true when dealing with an overly emotional partner who has codependent tendencies (“codependent” refers to excessive neediness, controlling behavior, etc.). What’s worse: The men who are drawn to these types are often timid when it comes to expressing their needs in a relationship. These men can stay for years — long after they know they should break-up, but never being able to actually end it.
Are you in a relationship that you no longer want?
Are you putting off the inevitable break up because you can’t find the right way to break-up? Are you delaying because it’s never the right time? Stop! You’re wasting both your time and her’s. Many men stay with women because they just don’t know how to summon the strength to break-up, and/or they don’t know how to initiate the break-up. Here are some bad responses for why men stay stuck in bad relationships:
* “I don’t want to hurt her.”
* “She won’t be able to survive the break-up.”
* “I can’t stand to make her cry.”
* “She’ll go crazy and try to ruin her life”
* “We live together, have a dog, share a car, etc.”
* “We’re engaged!”
* “Her family is really nice to me” (or, “Her dad is a family friend/my boss/etc.”)
* “My family expects us to get married.”
These are just a few poor excuses why men stay in stressful, unhappy relationships. None of them are valid reasons for staying in a relationship that you don’t want.
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