The typical “How to Break-Up” advice goes like this:
* Be sensitive to their pain
* Shift the reasons towards you instead of blaming them
* Do it in person, and not by texting or email
* Communicate from the heart and then give them space
However, if you’re on the internet looking for advice about how to break-up, the above tips are probably NOT helpful.
In other words, you’re probably a sensitive person who would never dream of doing it through text, for example – you’re just looking for ways to reduce the pain for partner. Maybe your partner is dependent on you, or has no idea that you have doubts about the relationship, and you’re scared of his or her reaction.
You’re probably feeling tremendous guilt: You never wanted to hurt anybody, and you feel that this could devastate your partner.
The best break-up advice I can give you right now is this: You have permission to go. A relationship is a choice. You can break up with anyone at anytime, and for any reason. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been together 10 days or 10 years — there’s always the possibility that one partner will choose a different path.
Unfortunately, heartbreak is part of life, and your partner signed-up for this possibility when he or she pursued a relationship with you. Also remember that — despite how much your partner loves you — he or she probably wouldn’t want to be with you if they truly knew that you didn’t wish to be with them. And if they really love you, they’ll want the best for you.