Breaking up is painful and this can mean that there were problems in your relationship. Sometimes though, you might not realize that there are major problems, but you feel that something isn’t right.
There might not be a reason that stands out to you as to why your relationship is going how it is. Maybe you feel something is right even though something is wrong. You may even realize that there is something off without there being any red flags.
Here is what you need to know about your relationship:
- Problem: When You Want to Spend More Time with Others
Maybe you have had a great time in your relationship so far but out of nowhere you become less interested in spending time with your partner. You see them here and there but the quality time that was there in the beginning is less and you want to spend more time with your friends over your partner.
This can be a sign that the relationship is in trouble. You should be wanting to be with your partner as much or more than you do with other people in y our life.
- Problem: Feeling Tired After Being Together
Do you have a partner that makes you feel tired and drained after you spend time with them? Do they leave you feeling full of energy or tired? If they make you feel tired and drained, chances are that something isn’t right. You need to communicate and find out what is going on.
- Problem: You Dream of Being Single
All relationships will have problems, and everyone might dwell on the idea of how easy it was to be single but if you are constantly wishing that you were single and that you weren’t with your partner, this is a red flag.
- Problem: You Don’t Miss Them
When they aren’t with you for periods of time, you should miss them and long for them. Even though spending time away from each other is important, when you aren’t missing them at all, this can be a sign that the relationship has something wrong. If they show that they miss you, but you aren’t feeling the same, it’s time to look deeper.
- Problem: They Get On Your Nerves
Do you have times where your partner gets on your nerves? This is normal. The problem though is when you wake up in the morning and the last thing that you want to do is to have to deal with your partner or be around them. If they are always irritating, you or getting on your nerves then you need to figure out the problems and not just ignore them.
- Problem: Others Get the Good News First
People in your life are important such as family and friends and you will always want to tell them when something good is going on in your life. But your partner should be the first person that you run to with the news before you move on to everyone else. They should be the person that you want to celebrate you and to celebrate when you are winning. If you want someone else to be your biggest fan, this can be a problem.
- Problem: They Get In Your Way
Do you feel that your partner is constantly getting in the way of the good things that you want for yourself? Maybe you want to change your job, or you want to have a better social life. Being with a partner can cause there to be situations where you are held back. If you feel that you are being held back and they aren’t letting you grow, find out why.
- Problem: No Intimacy
Maybe you have some intimacy, but it isn’t enough or maybe you are not having the sex that you want, and you aren’t really ready to talk about it. This can be a problem and you need to make sure that you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to sex and intimacy. Having a lack of intimacy can cause your to resent your partner and to not be attracted to them.
- Problem: You Don’t Care
Red flags can mean that you’re in a toxic relationship and if you don’t care enough to fight for your partner or to argue when something is wrong, this is a big red flag. You should be able to talk about your concerns and if you’re upset you should be able to tell them. Not caring enough means that you aren’t motivated to even work on the relationship, and you have a lack of communication.