If someone is considered emotionally available it means that they are able to show their emotions and someone that isn’t, cannot open up.
When you want to know if someone is unavailable or if they are available in their emotions, you have to understand their emotions and what they believe in.
There are many reasons why someone can be emotionally unavailable such as:
- Heartbreak
- Recent break up.
- Problems from childhood.
- Mental health issues.
- Afraid of being attached.
- Doesn’t see you as anything but fun.
An emotional unavailable person wants to be with someone to have fun and they do not want to take a chance of being hurt. They want to be familiar with someone and not get into a dysfunctional family relationship. If you need to know the difference between someone that is available and unavailable, here are things to keep in mind.
Walls or Expanded
Someone that is unavailable will want it to just be you and them. They will not have a social circle and they will only want you to be part of their inner circle. They will not want to meet your friends, or your family and they won’t want to include anyone else in their circle.
Someone that is available will expand their circle and want you to meet everyone they know. They will introduce you to their friends and family and they will always be curious about your friends.
Hidden Emotions or Openness
Someone that is unavailable will hide their emotions and they will not tell you how they feel. They will keep things off and will not want to share what they are really thinking.
A partner that is available will always want to stand with you and for you to know what they are thinking and feeling. They want to share and you to share with them.
Scared or Excited
A person that is unavailable will be scared by your emotions. They will do what they can to avoid your feelings and they will want to connect with you and be close to you. They will be afraid if you start to talk about things and will worry about getting hurt.
A partner that is available will want to share their feelings with you and will be excited to invest you. They will be ready to be open to you and to love you.
Not Willing to Learn and Learning
A partner that is unavailable will not want to know too much about you and they will not be willing to connect with you. They also will not want you to know too much about them either.
A partner that is available will want to learn all he can about you. He will share as many details of his life as he can with you.
Won’t Share or Sharing
A partner that is unavailable will not want to share with you their thoughts or emotions. They will want to keep you close but not too close. They will be afraid that sharing their life will end up in pain.
When someone is available to you, they will want to share their emotions with you, or they will want to know more about you.
Sex or Intimacy
A partner that will be unavailable will have sex with you, but they will not connect with you. They will want to be sexual, but they will not want to be intimate.
A person that is available to you will want to be passionate with you and will want to have strong emotions with you.
Conclusion
Someone can be both available and unavailable at the same time but if they are always unavailable then it is a sign that you will not be able to have a real bond with them.