“Sometimes, it can be difficult to know when to leave a relationship.
Perhaps things aren’t great, but they’re not too bad either. It’s easy
to sit on the fence for a while and just let fate take over, but it’s
better to make a deliberate choice to stay or go. When making this
decision, an important question to ask yourself is, “”Is this
relationship unhealthy?””
Unhealthy relationships follow identifiable patterns. Though
circumstances always vary from couple to couple, they are often
characterized by:
– Frequent arguments
– Frequent criticism on either side
– Inability to tolerate the other’s personal quirks
– Intolerance of the other’s friends or family
– Unfair expectations
– Hyper-sensitivity by one or both partners
– Intolerance of occasional lapses of attention
– Psychological problems that lead to behavioral ones
– Inability to address conflicts in a mature fashion
– Excessive jealousy and mistrust
– Extreme insecurity or major obstacles involving low self-esteem
– One or both partners have addictive or destructive tendencies
– Few, if any, mutual friends
– One partner gets easily upset over unimportant or petty things
– Excessive clingy-ness
– One or both partners feels as if they are “”walking on eggshells””
much of the time
– Difficulty discussing feelings
This is by no means and exhaustive list, and just represents some of
the traits that characterize an unhealthy relationship.
Your significant other is supposed to be a source of comfort in the
world, not a persistent source of stress and anxiety. If your
relationship offers no sense of peace or safety, it’s time to end it.
If the problems escalate to physical or emotional abuse, the need to
breakup is even more urgent.