Everyone that is in a relationship will have conflict and even couples that are happy don’t always agree on the same things.
Being in a relationship can be hard and frustrating and when you feel that you have a partner that is refusing to listen to you then it can be even harder. Having communication is one of the best things you can do and no matter if there is yelling or if someone is talking over you, the issues will not be resolved.
How do you handle problems in your relationship and what causes there to be conflict? There are ways that you can be respectful when you have a disagreement and you can learn to resolve conflict in a peaceful and calm manner:
Yelling
Communication is the building block of a strong relationships and when you are communicating with your partner, you are making them understand you and trust you. You know them well enough to know what upsets them and triggers them and when you trying to communicate with your partner you can do this without it being heated.
You have to learn to stay cool and to not call them names or yell. Ask questions such as:
- Why are you mad?
- How can we fix this?
- What is really the problem?
- How can we stop this from happening again?
Listening
Talking is important but listening is even more important. You have to give your partner the opportunity to be able to say what they need to say and to share their feelings.
You can stop relationship conflict by not being disrespectful and keeping eye contact when they talk to you. Do not always be distracted when they are speaking.
Differences
If you are having an issue with your partner do not bring up your difference when you are fighting. Pick a time when things are calm and when everyone is in a good mood.
Bringing up things when you are mad, tired, or just in a bad mood can cause there to be more problems.
Tone
Pay attention to how you speak to your partner. Do you understand that we all have a tone? If you could be mild and calm and keep your manners, then you could have a conversation without yelling at them.
If you want to stop problems and not hurt your relationship, do not belittle them or be sarcastic when they talk to you.
One of the worse things you can do is fight over text because text messages can end up having your partner question what you were really meaning and can misunderstand you.
Respect
If you are arguing, do not be disrespectful. Make sure you do not say things that you normally wouldn’t. By being disrespectful, you are never going to solve the problems you are having.
Take time to calm down when you are fighting and do not yell or cause there to be deeper emotional problems. Show them respect by:
- Talking about the problem you are dealing with in the now.
- Being serious and taking their feelings seriously.
- Not interrupting when they talk.
- Being patient.
- Be calm and cool.
Love
One of the most important things to remember is that you love this person. They are the love of your life and not everyone has 100% happy times. Everyone will disagree and that is okay. Learn to love and respect each other even in disagreements and you will be able to make it through.
Tomorrow might not come and so always make sure that you say you are sorry and give yourself and your partner a sweet sleep.
Empathy
When we misunderstand each other, it can turn into arguments? Learn to love each other and have empathy. Empathy is understanding the feelings of others.
Put yourself in your partners shoes and see things from their point of view. When you show empathy, you can resolve the conflict you are having in a kind and caring way. You can show compassion and help to keep peace.
Disagree
If you disagree about things such as politics or religion, learn to agree to disagree. If you cannot come to terms with it, do not try to change each other’s mind but just know that it is okay to disagree.
As long as you are not fighting about something that will hurt your family or your finances then just agree to disagree and move forward.
Forgive
The best thing you can do to make your relationship stronger is to forgive them. Learn to forgive those that have hurt you and know that forgiving is not just saying it.
Forgiving someone means that when you say you forgive that the issue is not brought up again. You have to let go of the anger you feel and be kind and respectful even after the fight is over.
Conclusion
Communication is one of the most important things for couples and you can learn to resolve conflicts without hurting each other if you learn to communicate.
Listen, be respectful, see things from your partners point of view and forgive and you will be able to resolve your problems without constantly fighting with each other. Have peace and love in your home.