If you want to have a great relationship, communication has to be strong. When you lack communication skills, it can cause the relationship to die or to not be as good as you hoped it could be.
Mistakes in Communication
People have problems communicating and this should not be a surprise. If you have a partner that does not know how to communicate, chances are you feel that you are not close to them or you do not feel loved.
Having basic communication problems can lead to relationships ending and makes people wonder what they are doing wrong. There are some common problems that many people face in their relationships.
Not Asking
There is nothing wrong with asking your partner, “How is your day?” but if you ask this often, it can cause people to feel that their partner is checking up on them or not being sincere. Some couples get to the point where they ask this because they have nothing else to say and this shows that the communication is lacking.
When you say something that sounds repetitive, chances are that you are doing it because you feel that it is your duty to ask, but when you really care, you will look them in the eyes and ask, waiting for their response. Looking someone in the eyes can show your sincerity and show the person you love them.
Saying something different such as, “I love you,” or “Did you do anything exciting today?” can change up the situation and make your partner feel more loved.
This kind of talking shows that you are interested in what your partner did and what they are feeling, and it is a better way that you can talk to your partner without being repetitive.
State What is Obvious
Sometimes people do not say things because they feel that it is obvious. Telling someone that you love them is important because people sometimes need to hear what is obvious. We also need to be more complementary to people that we love. When someone needs something, if their partner isn’t fulfilling it, they will get it fulfilled somewhere else.
Truth
Good relationships mean that you should be able to talk about anything. When things are hard or embarrassing, you should trust your partner enough to talk about them and what happened.
Stop Being Passive Aggressive
Being passive aggressive can end a relationship fast. One of the biggest rules in communication is not to be passive aggressive and that you have to learn to speak to each other without being defensive.
Stop hiding things and shutting down the communication when it is something that you don’t feel like talking about or if you feel threatened by it. Think about how much it affects someone when you choose to not talk to them to teach them a lesson, the relationship begins to die when this happens.
Communication is what keeps your relationship alive and you need to find ways to effectively communicate so that you can get closer. Even if you fight or argue, this is normal, but you have to learn to have peaceful conversation as well.
Not Listening
Communicating means that you talk, and you listen. This does not mean that you just sit there and pretend to listen but that you really listen and understand what the other person is saying.
When both people in the relationship want to communicate, they will focus on what the other person is saying and will truly listen.
Empathizing with someone is also important. When you are empathetic with your partner, it means you care about what they care about. When you choose not to show empathy, it will make your partner feel alone. Sometimes someone just needs emotional support.
Make a choice to have good communication with your partner if you want the relationship to work. Doing this will make you a great team.
Make sure you share with your partner what you are feeling and that you tell them that you want to improve your communication. Doing this will improve your relationship and open you up to a new world with your partner.