Even the most satisfying of relationships can become stale. Patterns become monotonous. You may begin to wonder about why your routine lack the fun and comfort they once possessed. You still love your partner and your life together, but you want more spontaneity and excitement. Below are nine tips to bring back the spark in your romance and revitalize your relationship.
- Talk it out
Find a time to discuss your concerns with your partner. Often, one partner is perceiving monotony and the other is content. It’s important to create the time and space to share both of your thoughts, emotions and feelings. This way you can jointly work on a solution that serves both of your unique needs.
- Prioritize each other
It takes two to make a relationship fail or succeed. Reevaluate if you both are spending enough quality time together. Make sure your time involves fun and relationship-building activities that can help you both destress while strengthening your bond.
- Shake it up
If you want to spice up your life, you need to be willing to stretch your boundaries. Sharing a new experience together can provide you a much-needed adrenaline rush and the opportunity to form fun and happy memories together.
- Get packing
Traveling teaches a couple A LOT about one another. From planning, to packing to transit to exploring the unique stresses that travel affords gives vital insight to someone’s priorities and mindset. You can learn more about each other’s like and dislikes, create treasured memories and identify key opportunities you need to work on to create an even more satisfying union.
- SURPRISE!
Whether it’s a gift, an experience or an action being surprised by someone can be a happy and wonderous experience. Often, it’s not the gesture itself that is the most important, but the thoughts that went into its planning. Plus, getting surprised shows a spontaneous side to your dynamic that can make even the longest established relationship feel fresh and new again.
- Me time
As much as you both enjoy each other’s company, it is important that you create time each day for you both to be alone. By having individual experiences, you both are able to reflect and process your day, as well as your inner voice. When you reunite you will be able to share new talking points and insights in your conversations. Me time is also critical to helping a couple not become codependent on each other and better realize their individual strengths and gifts. You can then use this renewed energy and confidence to be a partner in your relationship.
- Reminisce about both the good and bad times
Strolling down memory lane together can provide you both vital insight into the health and priorities of your relationship. By understanding the lessons and impact of your memories you grow together as mates. Plus, often discussing memories can bring about an endorphin rush as you both laugh, smile and relive the nuances of each memory. Also, if you are looking at photos or watching a video, it can be a great time to cuddle up with the one you love most.
- Make mindful alterations
No one is perfect and its helpful to reevaluate if one or both of your habits are helpful or hinder your relationship. Address areas of concern together and create solutions for each problem area as a team. Finally, make sure you follow through with any promises you make to your partner. Putting forth deliberate and consistent effort will go a long way in showing your partner that you value them and are prioritizing your love and life together.
- Never stop trying
If you find yourself in rut, it is up to you to fix your concerns. Take time to research and plan things for you and partner to enjoy together. Make it a point to explore something new each week! Nothing is too small or big to attempt. The important thing is you create variety, spontaneity, and cultivate joy.
Being complacent can place an undue burden on your romance. People lose drive and boredom takes over. If you don’t make immediate and decisive changes you run the risk of allowing resentment to enter and take over your lives. It’s ok if a potential solution to not work out. The important thing is you both keeping trying to correct unhealthy thoughts or behaviors. Each person and every relationship are unique. What works for one dynamic might not be successful in another. The act of communication ideas, creating strategies and learning from experience will bring you both closer together and reaffirm the love you feel for one another.