Dating today can often feel like a headache. It can be maddening to navigate the apps, social media and texting. Sure, we are using communications, but are we really talking with each other?! Even the terminology has evolved again, to the point people no longer date, but “hang out.” This can lead to mixed messages and tons of negative or hurtful assumptions. It seems like people no longer want to woo anyone, but still want to be pursued. This had led to culture of one person feeling like they have to “chase” the other, rather than the old-fashion theory of courtship where romance could be more of a two-way street.
Read on to discover five reasons why chasing someone is a bad idea:
- It’s toxic for one’s self-esteem. If you are always pursuing someone and focused on their feelings, you begin to neglect your own. Your dignity and sense of self are never worth being eroded for anyone or anything.
- If you have to chase someone, chances are they really don’t want to be involved with you. Instead spend your time and energy on a person that trying values your special gifts.
- It might be time for you to reassess if they are really worth it for you. Someone of strong morals and character would be honest with their feelings and expectations instead of toying with your emotions.
- Are you living your best life? Chasing after someone takes away from moments to partake in your favorite hobbies or spend time with your loved ones. When you stop chasing, you allow for the Universe to help some fabulous new opportunity find you!
- If you “catch” them, what is the likelihood that they will stay around?! It is possible for someone to be physical present with you, but mental and spirituality distant. On a positive note, if you find this happening to you, there is the chance for you to see that perhaps this person wasn’t really meant for you. Often it takes getting our “prize” to see it wasn’t the thing that could truly bring us happiness or create the life we were meant to live.