Dating in the digital age means the opportunity to get ghosted and for most people this has already happened. There is no worse feeling than really liking someone only to have them go MIA without warning. The real basis of ghosting is obvious, men and communication simply do not mix.
In general, men like to make excuses rather than admit a fear of confrontation. This is why ghosting has become so commonplace. It is also much easier to ghost someone when most communication has become tech based. The truth is women don’t necessarily want a confrontation, just honesty. It is easier to hear a truth, even a harsh one, than hearing nothing and wondering. That being said, there are a few common reasons he may be ghosting you that are shared below.
He Is Not That Into You
When a man feels you are too clingy or getting serious to fast, he is likely to ghost you. Men like a challenge when it comes to women. We can make ourselves more of a challenge by staying busy with our own lives. Until he is completely smitten with you, do not change your schedule for him. He should fall somewhere below a scheduled nail appointment until you are fully committed.
Most men would prefer walking around on hot coals barefoot to confronting a woman and potentially making her cry. This would make him feel bad and he will not want that, ever. Choose to take an empowering action and avoid ghosting by acknowledging what you feel like he wants to confront you about. Don’t wait for him to make the comment, be straightforward and bring it out in the open yourself.
Lack of Chemistry
We cannot force chemistry. Most women know chemistry and attraction can grow over time, men do not usually see it this way. If he doesn’t feel the same way, move on.
Some guys want to avoid the craziness of a breakup and do so by texting then immediately blocking. If you are prone to going off the rails emotionally, you are likely to experience ghosting. Work on yourself and some inner peace so you are not as easily triggered at the first sign of rejection. Acknowledge your feelings, but don’t create a dramatic scene.
You’re Too Needy
As mentioned, men like a challenge. If a man feels like you require too much work or are too needy then you will likely get ghosted. Being a challenge does not mean you are a challenge. Take care of yourself because no man wants to be required to meet all your needs. They can help you feel cared for and adored, but they cannot be your sole source of happiness.
Beating You to the Breakup
Though not as often, some men do take a hint. If the man you are dating feels like you are not that into him, he may simply beat you to the punch and ghost you. While you need to play a bit hard to get, do not make yourself unattainable. If your life is super busy, be up front about that from the beginning. You may need to put off dating for a while, but a good man might be willing to wait.
He Found Someone Else
Some people like to date more than one person at a time. It is just who they are. You may get ghosted because he decided to get more serious with someone else. Be open with who you are dating and expect the same from them. If you continue to date others while getting to know each other, that’s fine, but know that if things get serious with someone else, you may get ghosted.
All being said, dating is tough. It takes so much courage to even get out there and try. If you do get ghosted, try not to take it too personally. You deserve love and the dream guy could be just around the corner. Keep trying until you find him.